MODERN PARENTING TIP WITH ANCIENT METHOD

Today is Valentine’s Day and I woke up feeling excellent and energetic. As I get into the usual routine of washing up followed by waking up my kids, I realized that it’s no different from any other days. And that’s because the kids were just as unreluctant and grouchy getting out of bed. Well, to think about it, I can’t really expect a 3 and 6 year old kid to understand the meaning of Valentine’s day. In fact, things seem to get worse as my 3 year old got into her mood swings and turned from being a cheerful to a grumpy and frowning “old” soul. In the past, I would have chosen to discipline her straight away as I believe that such behaviours are intolerable. Today, I walked away silently and went up to my lovely spouse and ask him to help handle the situation. It worked, just like all other times.

The purpose of this story is to share with all other parents that parenting is not a difficult task if you understand the correct disciplining style and approach that would suit your child’s character. For example, the above method used would not have worked for the 6 year old.

These days, as more households require dual income to survive, parents would definitely have less time to bond and understand their child. Quite often, they either take the easy way out through compensation in the form of material gains or give in to their demands and requirements. However, we have also seen families where the mother spends a lot of time taking care of the children but still could not truly comprehend or understand them. It always takes two hands to clap to build bonding and understanding. But, in the initial phase of growing up, the parents have a far greater and more important role to play.

The approach, guidance, encouragement and disciplinary style is different for all children, even if they are genetically yours. What ways can parents really look at to find out the attributes, characteristics, strengths and weaknesses of their child especially at a very young tender age?

I have researched for the past 8 years and finally found a useful method to establish that. It belonged to the study of Chinese Metaphysics and by utilizing the child’s Date of Birth information, the core characteristics, behavior, attributes, strengths, weaknesses and potential can all be established. You may ask why is it important to find out all these at a very young age? Well, don’t you think that will help you in establishing the best form of guidance, development plans, disciplinary style for that particular child. All of us have different skills - those that are in-born or inherent and those that require development through different stage of experiences. By understanding the inherent talents, parents can easily identify areas to further enrich and nurture without the long process of trial and error. I have seen many parents enrolling their children in such a vast variety of programs and classes that their schedule turns out to be busier than any working adults. In my opinion which some others may differ, I feel that there’s a lack of focus and if we really stop and think for a moment, how many people are there in this world who are great and can excel in different skillsets. For example, a good singer may not necessarily be a good soccer player or a good actor may find it difficult being a chartered accountant. While most parents would like their kids to be multi-talented, this can sometime turn the tables around and create a reverse outcome.

I came across this method called Bazi Analysis many years ago and found that this originated from China and has been used for centuries. In the more modern times like now, people who utilizes this method most are the “fortune-tellers”. On this note, I urge everyone not to develop any negative opinion yet just because it is used by people in this profession as I realized that this method has benefits far greater than just for the purpose of fortune-telling. The ignorance and lack of proper information has prevented people from finding out more on the origin and basis of this method. In fact, this has even led many people to associate it partially to religious or spiritual practice. This is an incorrect perception as throughout my whole study and use of this method, I had never once used any of these practices.

With the possession of a degree in Business Studies and major in Banking and Finance, only things that have a basis and logical explanation will entice me to try it. And it is with this attitude that I have pursued and studied the theories and analysis methodologies carefully. The testimonial of this fantastic Bazi theory comes from my own personal experiences as I learnt to understand not only myself better, but also, all others around me from my parents whom I could not always communicate openly with, to my children, my spouse, extended family members and many more. And it is also through these experiences that I found that it has helped me in my “parenting” skills.

The day each of my child was born, I would quickly take their Date of Birth information and developed the chart for my analysis. As years passed, their display of characteristics, behavioural traits, strengths and weaknesses were more visible but was what I have expected. Since day one, I have understood them well and this has given me ample time to accept everything about them. I also used this knowledge to help my spouse and me develop the respective guidance and disciplinary approaches for each of them. Now that they have grown to a new stage of development, we are confident that our plans for them will be something they can excel in.

Parenting, as a whole, can be a stressful and daunting task. While many others have different approachs to manage this, I have felt that the Bazi Analysis method is suitable for me as it is a quick and immediate deduction which leaves you lots of time to plan in advance and most importantly, enjoy the ride and journey of Parenting life.

Last but not least, I quote “Strong reasons make strong actions” by William Shakespeare (1564-1616). As parents, we always have reasons to give the best to our children, let’s take actions to first help them find what they are best in.

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